“How To Use Your Strengths Without Frustration”

Have you ever desperately needed something done, and when another person stepped up, instead of accepting their help, said, “Oh, I couldn’t ask you to do that!”

Do you ever find yourself working hard to get something done, and wonder why nobody else seems to step up when you always do?

I have some great news for you!

Everybody is different! I know, right, it’s so obvious. But instead of saying, “Oh, I couldn’t ask you to do that” while thinking you’re shoving all the tasks you don’t want to do onto some helpless person who will hate it as much as you do, think of it this way:

Have you ever really wanted to do something and been told, “No, so-and-so is going to do it instead!” ? Did you feel disappointed? Have you ever felt like your skills, strengths, and the stuff that you really shine at, is under-utilized? How much does that suck!

What if you’re at a job where you’re never given tasks to do that you’re good at?

How demoralizing!

We do that to people ALL THE TIME!

Just because I hate to do Such and Such doesn’t mean SO AND SO hates it!

If so and So loves writing, and you love organizing, why give So and So the organizing task? They’ll suck at it, you’ll hate doing the writing, and meanwhile you’re thinking “Oh, I’m such a great person to be doing this so SO AND SO doesn’t have to!”

Drop it! Find out what your strengths are, find out what your team is good at. Don’t burden yourself doing something you hate, because you’re depriving So and So of excelling at what they LOVE!

And what am I good at? My strengths are reading, gaining knowledge, and assimilating it so that I can share it with others. This whole blog post is about stuff I learned at Monique’s “Discover Your Sacred Gifts” workshop, for example! I also excel at craftsmenship- creating art, bringing beauty to the world and seeing it where others don’t. I also have about four more, which I won’t go into today.

I am now looking for: A person who fills in MY gaps!

Do you love being dedicated to the success of another? Would you be able to anticipate needs, get in my head, and get really excited about my vision? Would you love to help me get my art into the world, so we can show other artists how to get THEIR art into the world?

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Do you love structure, creating systems, and are an amazing, efficient planner? Would you love to ferret out awesome opportunities and send in applications, and execute logistical plans? Are you great at implementing and delegating?

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Do you love getting things done? Are you task-oriented, all about saying “What can I do?” and always find yourself in the small cross-section of people that show up and are committed to the task? You do it and have fun!

I would love to share my gifts with you, if you would contact me and share your awesomeness with me. We can create an awesome venture together, and share all the success and benefits of doing so. If you’re the right person, you’ll help me work out all those details.

What do you think? Have you been forcing yourself to endure tasks that other people would love to do? What kind of person are you, and what are the kinds of people that you would LOVE to have around you?